In West Haven, Utah apparently little girls aren’t allowed to say “no” if they don’t want to dance with a boy.
Yeah, you read that correctly. I know, I was fucking furious when I heard about it, too.
Natalie Richard’s daughter is in the sixth grade at Kanesville Elementary She stated that her daughter told her she wasn’t allowed to say “no” if a boy asked her to dance at the school’s Valentine’s Day dance. Richard couldn’t believe it at first and thought the kids had just misunderstood.
She was very wrong.
She asked the teacher, who confirmed it was a rule. Then she went to the principal of the school. Her summary of his explanation is as follows:
He basically just said they’ve had this dance set up this way for a long time and they’ve never had any concern before.
They’ve got a concern now!
Lane Findlay, who works with the Weber School District, said it is a rule, but that it is meant to teach students to be inclusive.
You can teach inclusion without teaching young boys that little girls can’t tell them “no” if they don’t want to do something. What a bunch of fucking misogynists.
Please be respectful, be polite.We want to promote kindness, and so we want you to say yes when someone asks you to dance.
That isn’t promoting kindness; that’s teaching boys to ignore “no.” It’s almost as if there isn’t a massive movement happening across the US currently. Findlay is an idiot.
Richard countered and said:
I do see it from their perspective when it comes to that, but there are many other ways to teach children how to be accepting than with a social dance.
She doesn’t much care for that whole teaching girls not to say “no” thing either:
[It] sends a bad message to girls that girls have to say ‘yes’; sends a bad message to boys that girls can’t say ‘no’
The administration excuses this saying that students are encouraged to write down five names of people they would like to dance with, though the entire dance is optional. If they are uncomfortable with someone, they’re encouraged to speak up. Yes, because sixth graders are articulate enough to say that they’re uncomfortable in front of the entire school when chances are very good they would just say “no” and want to go back to their friends and not be embarrassed any more than they already are.
If there is an issue, if there’s students that are uncomfortable or have a problem with another student, I mean: that’s certainly something that can be addressed with that student and parents.
Richards thinks he’s full of shit too and said:
Psychologically, my daughter keeps coming to me and saying I can’t say ‘no’ to a boy.That’s the message kids are getting.
Precisely my point. You can’t teach girls not to say “no” to boys and then wonder what the hell happened when they become adults and those same boys are now men who are predators and those same girls are now women who have been victims of sexual assault.
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